So, after the conversation you read in the last post, we sold our home pretty fast (the first person to come through our very first Open House)! We decided to set a very short closing date (Dec 18 – just about 10 weeks from the day we sold), because we made the decision (in the moment) to travel and to not buy another home. I say “in the moment”, because our Agent literally asked us at the same time as bringing us the offer if we wanted to put an offer on the home we had been looking at buying. We decided to give ourselves a short 4-hour deadline to decide! It really only took a few minutes, because let’s face it – why wouldn’t we do this?
Over the next couple months, we shared the news with our friends and family that we were going to be leaving Canada sometime in the New Year (this of course changed, and we left before Christmas, but I will get into that in another post). Everyone was very supportive and excited for us. Sure, there were a few that weren’t, but, unfortunately, we can’t expect everyone to understand our choice.
Since I was not working, I took the opportunity to sell anything and everything I could in the house to make our move easier, and to make our wallets bigger for the short-term while we waited for the house to close. It is amazing how fast you can sell things on the internet (I used Kijiji and Facebook mainly). I sold everything from storage cabinets, to an air purifier, to our fish! This was also a therapeutic experience, because it made me realize just how much “stuff” we accumulate that we actually don’t need! I hated the process of packing, because it made me think more about how much “stuff” we had that we didn’t need, and I really wanted to just get rid of all of it! The idea of packing stuff into boxes to put them in storage (free, thanks to my Brother and parents but still), felt annoying to me. All I could think about was the day that we have to unpack these boxes, just to find room for this stuff that we don’t need. I told Trevor that I didn’t want to buy another home, and that when we come home (someday), I want something small. I still dread the day when I have to go through those boxes…..
Through the month of December, we had to say goodbye to all of our friends and family. This was such a hard month for me (Ashley), not so much on Trevor (guys are weird like that – goodbyes don’t end in tears with their friends). Every goodbye ended with me being emotionally exhausted, and a little depressed. I rely on my girlfriends for so much love and support, and not having them nearby for so long is going to be so hard. Everyone says that “it’s just a year”, and I understand, but a lot can happen in a year. My Grandfather, for example, was the hardest goodbye for me. He recently had a heart attack, and he wasn’t doing well shortly after. Saying goodbye to him was very difficult, because I know I cannot be home if he were to have another heart attack (which the Doctors say is inevitable). Trevor’s Grandmother is also not in the best health, and we had to both be ok with the decision to leave knowing this. We had decided to get together with our families for a “Christmas” before we left, so that we could get all of the painful goodbyes over with in one night! Definitely the hardest one for me was my Niece Maddy. You would have read my concerns about leaving her in the last post, so I won’t go into them here. When it came time to say goodbye to her, I could not keep myself together. I cried SO much, it was the worst moment by far for me of this whole experience. I ended up leaving my Brother and Sister-in-law at the door because it was just too painful for me to stand there for a moment longer. As for my parents, I made a deal with my Mom that she wasn’t allowed to say goodbye to me at the airport, and that neither her or my Dad were allowed to even get out of the car – NO HUGS! This was the only plan I could think of that wouldn’t leave me an emotional wreck. It worked (I was surprised). We had our hugs at the house before taking the 2 hour drive to the airport in Toronto. We would begin by flying to L.A…